How to make friends in a crowd of strangers? Don’t be a wallflower(局外人). Score(得分,成功) some pals with these tips. You will need: something interesting to talk about, and friendly body language.
Step 1: Look for topics
Before you join the crowd, find something interesting to comment on. It could be something general(通常的,非专门的), like a recent headline, or something related to the event you’re attending.
Step 2: Sow seeds of conversation
Notice where people are congregating(聚集) and join a group. At a pause in the conversation, bring up the comment you thought of earlier. After exchanging a few words, excuse yourself and repeat the process, making the same comment to a few other groups. Make sure to keep track of(记住,追踪) who you’ve talked to.
Step 3: Settle on a conversation
After talking with several different groups, settle in(安定下来,坐定) to one conversation. Ask an open-ended question, comment on something in their response, and establish(构建) a natural flow(流动) of conversation.
Tip: When you show genuine(真心的) interest in someone, they perceive you as interesting.
Step 4: Use body language
Use body language to make people feel comfortable. Smile to show interest, keep your shoulders back to give the impression of self-confidence, and use eye contact to build trust.
Step 5: Invite others in
When people you spoke to earlier walk by, include them in the conversation by telling them what you’re talking about and asking their opinion. The people you talked to in the beginning are more likely to join your conversation because you’ve already established a rapport(融洽) with them. Most people don’t like talking to complete strangers.
Step 6: Let the conversation go
Let the conversation take on a life of its own. Congratulations! You’re now the social butterfly you always knew you were.
Did you know? According to a study, young people who are a little shy are less stressed than their extroverted(外向的) peers.